I’ve talked about my stance on feminism before within other posts on FMQ but I have never really just dedicated an entire thought to my love/hate relationship for feminism and folks who call themselves feminists. I mean, Beyonce is my Queen so by default, I have to be a fighter for gender equality, right? But I have a multitude of reasons why sometimes I just want to say FUCK feminism and none of them have anything to do with me feeling any superiority because I have a penis. It all stems from the people who call themselves “feminists” and how they choose to send their message. Nothing sends me running towards the hills quicker than a rally of women burning their bras and dumping pounds of birth control into our water wells. Watch the video below that has been making waves on social media:
I heard about this video when I was listening to the radio and all the radio djs absolutely HATED that these girls were cursing and raising a middle finger. I actually did not think it was that bad…I mean color me jaded but I’ve seen worse than this from children in the street who were cursing just because it was Tuesday and they were reciting their favorite Lil Wayne or Lil Boosie lyrics (If you don’t know who Lil Boosie is, then take yourself to Spotify and GET YO LIFE…he’s ratchet trash but my goodness I love him.) Anywho…at LEAST these girls were cursing for a reason. I’m not offended in the least; however, this did have me think about my ideal of feminism and why I sometimes want to kick every feminist in the face with a spiked boot…Sorry…but walk with me for a moment…
As a male, I feel like my role in this quest to gender equality is to shut my mouth and to silently agree with what women are doing. My only problem…besides never being able to shut my mouth…is that I don’t ALWAYS agree with how some people think feminism and feminists should look in our society. I do not believe that burning bras and shaming other people such as celebrities is the appropriate way to spread awareness for equal rights.
I wrote an article a while back about Nicki Minaj’s Anaconda single cover where she is in FULL SQUAT MODE showing her butt to the camera. I thought it was tasteless and I thought she owed her fans more. I was criticized by some readers because they felt I should let Nicki do what she wants and not say anything about it and I’m contributing to women feeling ashamed of their bodies and blah blah blah. My issue was not that Nicki COULD NOT do what she did. I honestly don’t care what Nicki does, as of today, she hasn’t paid ONE of my bills, but while I celebrate her rights as a woman to do what she wants, I do not feel like I have to support her every decision. I consider myself a feminist, a person who believes in the social, economical, and political equality of the sexes (Thanks Beyonce and Chimamanda Adichie) but I don’t always think that being the loudest or the most radical is the way to get your point across. I thought the video was quite mild but lets not get crazy!
I think that we have a long way to go until every person in this country feels accepted and feels like they have a place among their neighbors but the most important thing right now is to begin the conversation. You can miss me with all the PETA-ish methods to bring awareness to gender rights (women please continue to shower, use deodorant, and shave) but I’ll always be in the fight until everyone feels like they can be who they want to be. Man, woman, gay, straight, bi, trans, tall, short, black, white, chubby, skinny, phat….It doesn’t matter…we’re all humans and we all have to learn to treat each other with love and respect. There’s this episode of Glee that I remember where the students called themselves Unicorns because they were magical and rare, and beautiful and enchanting. I believe we all should strive to be unicorns because a little magic here and there has never hurt anybody…i mean…unless its black magic….then…don’t do that…just good magic…only good :)
Picture of badass robot unicorn!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!