I haven’t been able to post as much as I would like recently because I have been trying to plan out the next stages of my life including the direction I want the blog to go in, the new additions I want to add, as well as where I want my professional career to go. In the midst of all that, I’m in a relationship of five years with the love of my life who also is trying to progress her career. I want her to have everything that she’s ever dreamed of but I also want to be able to follow my dreams as well. So that brings me to the question, To Choose Love or To Choose Fashion. Now thats the question thats relevant to me, but for you the question might be To Choose Love or to Choose That New Dream Job in New York or for some, To Choose Love or to Choose That Last Piece of Pecan Pie…(I’m not excluding you single folks!) But even thinking about having to make a choice is terrifying!
I want my dream job and my dream girl all at the same time DAMMIT! But its looking like someone may have to sacrifice a piece of their dream in order for the other to follow theirs. So what do you do? Do you separate for as long as you need to in order to pursue your dream until you can be physically together? My girlfriend suggested that I read Lean In by Sheryl Sandberg in order to understand the plight of what women who pursue professional careers go through. She’s big on competing and being a dominating force in an industry historically ran by men and I want her to go out there and fight! But with me potentially having a career in fashion, there are two major markets in the US that would have optimum opportunity, New York City and Los Angeles. There are other markets like Dallas and Atlanta that are growing but I’ve lived in both of those cities and I think that I would prefer to be in the heart of where it all goes down!! Meet me in the Squaaare, its goin’ dooown…(sorry to put you all through that Yung Joc reference…I just had to get it out of me.) But New York would be fantastic for my career but it may not hold the same fruit for my girlfriend, so what should we do?
We decided that love will ALWAYS be there and we don’t have to be within the same zip code to have love. But we’re actively going to try to be together! That being said, we plan to shoot for states where both of our dreams can flourish: New York, California, Washington, Texas, and maybe…kinda..not really…Georgia (I love Georgia, but I spent my first 18 years there so I just really….strongly….DESPERATELY….want to see what else to world has to offer). Then we’re going to apply for schools and jobs in all those locations. After that…Its all up to God! Hopefully, we’ll have doors opened in the same state for both of us so we can both live our dreams TOGETHER but if doors open in separate places, then we will make the best decision then. But for us, the number one priority is our careers and our future. If we have to sacrifice time together then we’re willing to do that but we love love and we love each other so it’ll all work out regardless of where we end up. We will both eventually have all we’ve ever wanted.
So, with that being said, Go Out and Live!!! Don’t search for love, let love find you! Chase your dreams and shoot for everything that you’ve ever wanted. But the main thing is to never loose focus and to do a little something everyday to get you closer to your dreams. Love will happen! For me, love happened before my career. I didn’t plan it, I wasn’t looking for it. But when it happened, it was great! And I’m unbelievably happy to have a partner to navigate this crazy world with! The answer MY question, I refuse to either choose love or fashion….cuz baby, *Insert sassy neck roll*, Imma have my cake AND eat it too!